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Does this wealthy Chinese woman have feelings for me? 
I have been communicating with a Mainland Chinese woman on dating site for over a week now. I am a caucasian from the UK who's 11 years older than her. …

Chinese girl suddenly breaks it off 
About four and a half years ago I met a Chinese girl. We corresponded and we met each other in person. Our love deepened and became a very wonderful …

Chinese Parents bring Whirlwind Romance to a Screeching Halt 
For a while I have been combing the Asian dating sites and even though I saw many wonderful and beautiful ladies, I did not really take any initiative …

My Chinese Girlfriend Wants To Get Married, But Her Parents Oppose Her 
S.O.S. I have been dating a beautiful Chinese girl named Wenjuan for a while now, in a long distance relationship. We are both 25 years old and have been …

How to surprise a Chinese girl on Chinese Valentine’s Day 
As all you know Chinese Valentines Day is coming soon. As I am a foreigner in China and only have been staying here for a month, I have no idea what …

What can I do to make this Chinese girl more interested in me? 
Here is my story that I really would love to get your suggestions and recommendations for: I used to go very often to Asian restaurants in my town. …

Does this Chinese guy have feelings for me? 
I'm American and interested in a Chinese guy. We used to work together in Beijing. He's now in a different country in Asia but we still work for the …

Why did my Chinese boyfriend become distant? 
I am confused by my Chinese boyfriend. We've been together for 2 months now. We are in a long distance relationship. And it's a bit hard especially …

My Chinese Boyfriend Makes Me Feel Guilty 
I dated my Chinese boyfriend for about 8 months now. We broke up for 2 months because I couldn't handle his drunken, verbally abusive arguing that would …

She is Secretive, but I Still Love Her 
I met a Chinese girl, Zhang Yan, (22) in a bar, where she works in Thailand. She studies design in Thailand, she is from Shanghai. We have a good connection, …

Do I Have a Chance with this Gorgeous Chinese Girl? 
I've met this beautiful, gorgeous Chinese girl, and I really want to know if I have a chance with her. She's 19, I'm 28. We met online, now we chat (not …

Will my Chinese fiancee give me a second chance? 
Hello. I’m an American living in China. For the past 7 months, I have been engaged to a Chinese girl. She’s a 30 year old, successful business woman …

What gift is appropriate for this Chinese woman? 
I've had two dates with this woman who I met through an Asian Friend Finder web site last year. We get along well when we're together, we can talk …

My Chinese Waitress Soap Opera Part 3 
I should write an ebook about my favorite waitress, Lin. I took your advice about looking directly into Lin's eyes. She stares into my eyes quite a lot. …

A Chinese girl hugs me 
A Chinese girl I met and like initiated a hug, so now I hug her when I see her. She seems to know I am going to hug her, but her body language seems …

First love for a Chinese Girl  
I'd like to share my first love feelings towards a Chinese girl. But I am in need of advice if you don't mind. I am a college student from Michigan in …

Relationship with my Chinese teacher 
I need so much your advice on my situation. Because it has been almost a year and I still can't understand if a Chinese guy is interested in me as a girlfriend, …

Tips To Establish Good Relationship? 
What do Chinese guys love about girls? Can you give me tips about what they like to talk about, topics that set them off, things that they love girls to …

Asking Parents of a Chinese Girl For Her Hand In Marriage 
I'm planning to ask my Chinese girlfriend's parents for her hand in marriage. She was born in the USA and is very Americanized. Her parents are traditional …

Why does my Chinese boyfriend’s Mom oppose our love? 
My boyfriend is pure Chinese and I am a Filipina with a foreign blood. At the start of our relationship, I already knew that I would not end up with him. …

Wedding Gift? 
I have an American buddy who recently married a woman from China. She is in her mid forties I'm guessing and recently moved to the US to be with my friend. …

Breaking the ice with a Chinese guy 
There is a Chinese guy that I see everyday for several months now, but I am too shy to talk to him. When we are together, we both look at each other for …

Dating a Chinese boy in China 
I am 21 and have been studying in Beijing at Tsinghua university for almost two months now. Recently (and by recent I mean a week ago) I met a Chinese …

Valentine's Day Confusion 
I am a 54 year old western guy. A 25-year-old Chinese girl, “adopted me” and calls me her “american father.” She called me on Valentine’s day. I missed …

Gifting my Chinese boyfriend with a belt 
It's my first time to be here and I'm really enjoying your website. Anyway, here goes my question. My boyfriend and I are Chinese. My mom told me to gift …

Still married but in love with Chinese girl 
While traveling to China, I recently met a women that I almost immediately fell in love with. After only a short time, I never wanted to be away from …

Age Differences in Marriage in China 
I am a 64 year old widower and have met a Chinese woman on the Internet who is 42 years old. She says she is interested in me as a potential husband. I …

How to ask a Chinese Girl out at work 
I am an Indian guy who has been in the US almost 4 years. There is this new Chinese girl at work I like a lot. I think she is the cutest and prettiest …

Chinese Girlfriend's Parents Won't Approve 
I met and fell in love with a Chinese Girl. I am a 60-year-old English white male. She also fell deeply in love with me and our relationship blossomed. …

Holding Hands 
I know a Chinese woman through work for over ten years now. We have met a number of times. Have I made a mistake by asking to hold hands? We were shopping …

Leaving China, but what about this Chinese Lady? 
I am a retired educator from the USA. I came to China 16 months ago to teach English and be with a Chinese lady who I met in the States. I am 68 and she …

A Little Dating Advice 
I have a Chinese girlfriend. We have been friends for about 5 years. A couple of months ago I told her that I had feelings for her and would like to …

This lovely Chinese girl is hesitant to communicate directly 
Hi, I have been writing to a lovely Chinese girl for four months. Her English is poor and she is hesitant about direct contact, so she says, because …

Chinese girl: Interested or No? 
I've known this Chinese girl for a long time. We met quite a long time ago; she seemed completely sweet, like a good person to know. Eventually, one day, …

Does This Chinese Woman Regret Her Decision? 
I dated a Chinese woman (37 years old) for the last 5 months. I am a separated man (VERY soon to be divorced). We hit it off EXTREMELY well pretty much …

Moving In and How Chinese Boyfriends Communicate 
I embarked on a new relationship with a Chinese man. We live in different states (he is native of China however), and he has asked me to leave my job …

In love with a Chinese guy who doesn't know what he wants 
I love a Chinese guy whom I got to know at work ten months ago. At work he asked about my QQ, so I gave it to him. I thought maybe he wants to be friends. …

How to understand my Chinese Boyfriend? 
I have a Chinese boyfriend and I am a Filipina. We've been together for almost 8 months now. And I know I'm taking all the risk in this relationship. …

Lunch Date with a Chinese Guy 
I invited the Chinese guy in my office to lunch - finally. When I went up to him and asked he said, “Are you sure?” It seems like he never thought it would …

Need a Chinese Girlfriend 
I want to have a Chinese girlfriend. But there is one thing I am not sure about. In Chinese culture, is a Chinese girl is allowed to marry someone who …

Troubled in Love with my Chinese Fiancee 
I met my Chinese fiancée online 7 months ago. We hit it off slowly and surely. She is 42, divorced, with a 17 year old daughter. I am separated, now 50, …

Chinese Gift Customs? 
Chinese gift customs make me feel a bit uncertain. When is it appropriate to give gifts? And what are some appropriate gifts to give to a Chinese boyfriend's …

What do my Chinese symbols mean? 
I have a picture of some Chinese symbols. I would like them translated into English. Do you know where I can send it? Thank you. -Question from Chuchie …

Chinese ex-girlfriend still needs me. Why?  
I spent about 6 months with my ex-Chinese-girlfriend before she ended our relationship and started going out with someone else. But she often contacts …

Chinese girl asks for my phone number 
A cute Chinese girl approached me at the retail store where I work as a cashier. She was very friendly with me and we talked to each other for a little …

Chinese Boyfriend Won't Marry Me 
My Chinese boyfriend won't marry me if our first baby is not a boy. Is that part of the tradition? Because I think his Mom wasn't able to marry his Dad …

End of my Chinese Love Story? 
Last summer I met a great Chinese girl in Shanghai. I met her again one month later and spent several months chatting, calling and messaging ever since. …

Hurt Chinese guy - Can We Still Be Friends? 
I met this very cute Chinese guy. He seems nice and he's from the same building I work in. For almost a year I was kinda hoping to get his name. This …

Engagement Ring on Which Finger? 
Ni Hao: I am wondering, do Chinese women wear the engagement ring on the right hand? Do they wear it on the fourth finger, next to the baby finger? Question …

Quiet Chinese Guy Wants to Break Up? 
I've been chatting with a Chinese guy since last January. I'm a Greek girl. At the beginning we chatted once in a while, but in the last 2 months we …

Lucky Amount for Chinese Wedding Gift 
My son is marrying a girl that came from China with her family about 8 years ago. We will be giving them money for their wedding present.  The amount will …

I Want to See This Chinese Guy Outside the Office 
I met a Chinese guy on my first day of work for a Chinese company. He was particularly friendly. I live in China and have been here for a few months. …

My First Meeting with a Long Distance Friend 
I don't have a long distance relationship with that girl yet. She is a good friend and we planned to do this trip together. In the previous questions, …

Alone together or with her friends? 
First of all thanks for your reply. I really want to try to make the trip and meet with her. I have good and bad news. She recently called home to ask …

I have a Chinese boyfriend and I am a Filipina 
I have a Chinese boyfriend and I am a Filipina. We all know that this is really a big problem. At first, I was hesitant to be his girlfriend because …

Does my Chinese guy love me? 
I'm dating a Chinese guy. I am a South African girl. My mother doesn't like him and we are expecting a child. He asked me to marry him and told me he …

My Chinese girlfriend is very shy 
I met my Chinese girlfriend at university (I'm French and a university student), but at the beginning I thought she didn't like me because she almost never …

Getting back my Chinese ex-boyfriend 
I've emailed before about me and my Chinese boyfriend. It has definitely been a rollercoaster ride with him. I love him tremendously. Recently, I've …

My Chinese boyfriend's parents disapprove 
My Chinese boyfriend and I have been together for more than three years now. But I haven't met his parents yet. Our relationship is against all odds - …

Cute Nicknames for Chinese Boyfriend 
I started dating this wonderful Chinese guy recently and things are going great. However, he complained a few times when I express my love for him by …

Is my Chinese boyfriend leading me on? 
My Chinese boyfriend confuses me often. There are times that he will call me and we will meet sometimes. He has talked about how he wants to be intimate …

Good friend to Girlfriend? 
I haven't asked a question for a while. I was practicing patience and going with the flow, which has been going great. Recently, I had to go against your …

My Chinese Boyfriend's Parents Don't Accept Me :( 
I am a Filipino female and my boyfriend is Chinese. It just so happens that my best friend is dating my boyfriend's older brother. We are all happy, you …

Asking my Chinese girlfriend's parents for their daughter in marriage 
I will be asking my Chinese girlfriend to marry me. She is Han and lives in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province. What is a good gift to bring her parents when I ask …

Why does my Chinese lover hold back?  
My Chinese boyfriend is now back in my area after being away for a while. As I said before, we've emailed each other several times while he was away. Whenever …

Chinese girl's Baba demands a house? 
I have known a Chinese girl online for 2 years now. She is from Guangdong. We were friends, sent lots of gifts, then after a year, she told me that she …

Water Rabbits and the Chinese New Year 
I was reading the articles about the year of the Rabbits and Chinese Astrology. It was interesting reading! I have a question regarding Rabbits. Does …

Where is a video and chat programme called QQ? 
I would like to find out some information on which website that is good and secure to download an English version of QQ. I would like to be able to chat …

Love letter to a Chinese girl 
I met a Chinese girl online a few years ago. We have been talking a little bit back and forth. Nothing really big. But I asked her if she would like to …

Is my Chinese boyfriend really falling in love with me? 
I've written before to you asking for your advice about my Chinese boyfriend. By the way, you have been very helpful. My boyfriend is still out of town …

Do you think my Chinese boyfriend's parents will accept me? 
I started to date a Chinese guy I knew and was friends with for about a year. He liked me for a very long time. He was very excited and happy to be with …

Will my Chinese man think I'm another ”loose American girl?” 
My Chinese man and I have not spent too much time together intimately before he left, but when we did, I was a little afraid of expressing myself in the …

What gift of jewelry to send my chinese girl penpal 
My Chinese “penpal” is a wonderful, wise and lovely divorced woman with one older child. I have two children. She is very poor and has to work …

Will my Chinese guy's parents hate him if he dates me? 
I have this Chinese guy that I have been friends with for awhile now. So we decided to date and I will go to visit him in China in March and stay with …

Is my Chinese boyfriend still angry at me? 
I think that my Chinese boyfriend got upset with me because he felt that I was asking questions about him to his friend. My boyfriend and I have a relationship …

Chinese girl left me with a small gift - does she really just want to be friends? 
I've known this Chinese girl for a year or so, but we've only dated during the latter part, maybe on the 6th month that I've known her. We went out a number …

Studying Chinese Words 
I am looking for a programme that has transliterated Chinese words. I have a severe hearing loss but I need to see the words to help me pronounce the …

Chinese Mother Needs Psychological Therapy? 
My Chinese mother has a very sharp temper. I have been dragged down to the guidance counselor and asked about child abuse every year since second grade, …

Does my Chinese girlfriend love me or my wealth? 
I call and/or chat regularly with my Chinese girlfriend. Since I don't have to go to China any more for work, we haven't physically met for 3 months. …

Organised Charities in China? 
Can you advise me on or recommend any organized charities that I can apply to for volunteering or internship in China? I have good news, that I have been …

Using Chinese I-Ching to select a lucky condo unit number? 
Hi Victoria, I want to know which of these condo unit numbers are lucky? I only have the following options - 212, 612, 410, 510, 610. Please advise. …

Chinese card games? 
Dear Victoria, Is it true that Chinese people play cards a lot? Is it a culture there in China? What card games do they play? - Question from Levi in …

Is my Chinese Boyfriend serious about me? 
I wonder if my Chinese boyfriend is serious about me? We have a long distance relationship. I am a black girl from America and he is a Chinese man from …

How do I ask a Chinese girl's traditional parents about marriage? 
We have been dating for almost three years and both of us have met each others' parents and know them quite well. We discussed marriage and that I should …

Is looking too young really good? 
I went to a Chinese store once and I asked something about a sword that was on sale. Then this Chinese lady asked me if I was over 18 years old. I said …

Why can't MY parents come to MY wedding? 
My fiance is a Chinese man and I'm from another country. Why is it that if you get married and you hold the ceremony at your soon-to-be husband's house, …

Why won't she let me touch her hand? 
I met my Chinese girlfriend two months ago, but I had to fly home shortly thereafter. Since we chat or call everyday, she said she liked me, she …

Will my Chinese girlfriend come back to me? 
My Chinese girlfriend and I were in a relationship for 6 months and we were both happy together...I always took care of her, text messaged her, called …

How to celebrate this Chinese woman's birthday? 
Hi. What do Chinese women want most for their birthday? And is there any special time to say “Happy Birthday” to her? Thanks! - Questions from Sami …

My Chinese wife is immigrating to the US. What can I expect from her family? 
Soon my Chinese wife's immigrant visa will be approved and I will go to China (again) to pick her up and escort her back. Is there anything I should be …

Is this Chinese lady for real? 
I have been chatting with a Chinese lady through the chnlove website (www.chnlove.com) and I hope to meet her on the 15th of July in Changsha. Though I …

I met a great Chinese girl in Shanghai, how can I get closer? 
I recently visited the Expo in Shanghai. Through my Chinese colleague, I met up with a girl who was our guide in Shanghai. My Chinese colleague knows …

Expressing affection in Chinese culture 
How do the Chinese feel about affection with the opposite sex, while they are in a relationship? Question from Isaiah in Detroit, Michigan, United States. …

What kind of engagement ring is she expecting? 
I have a Chinese girlfriend who lives in Shanghai and we are very much in love. We have already discussed marriage and I am taking a trip to Shanghai …

How can I address her affectionately, how to court her and what's my name in Chinese? 
My Chinese friend's name is: Meng Er. What would be the proper way to address her in an affectionate manner? We are intimate friends. She is native Chinese …

Cute names for a Chinese girlfriend 
My next question is more about nicknames for a girlfriend. I was curious if there are any nicknames that would be good to say in Chinese to her and she …

Buying flowers for a Chinese Lady 
I was on an Internet Chinese dating site for short while and I believe I met the right girl. November 28th is her 36th birthday. I have no time to order …

Selling to Chinese people: Why did they walk away? 
I work at estate sales and recently thought I had a successful sale about to conclude. The daughter was translating for her parents. I asked if her parents …

Did my Chinese girlfriend "choose" me? 
Recently I got a Chinese girlfriend. It is a long distance relationship and we are planning to meet. Either I will go back to Shanghai or she will try …

Why are Chinese people afraid to ask? 
My Mum is doing a TESOL degree and has heard Chinese people are taught English by grammar translation (ie. they are given something in Chinese and they …

Pendant 
Hi, Victoria! I have a pendant with some Chinese symbol or character. Could you translate it into English? Thanks! Olga Victoria's Answer:

Does this Chinese guy like me or is he just playing? 
I met this Chinese guy at my office. He was the only guy willing to approach me. He asked me for my name. As my name is an English name, he couldn’t pronounce …

Gift Ideas for a Future Chinese Daughter-In-Law? 
My son's girlfriend is coming to America for a visit. I would like to get her a gift, as I know it is her custom to give gifts when you meet someone. …

Which Chinese Flowers Signify Beauty or Youth? 
Dear Victoria, I have been seeing a Chinese girl and while we do not have a relationship, we do feel that the future might hold more for us. It's …

A Chinese Man Gave me a Very Peculiar Gift 
A Chinese man gave me a gift, after working with him for a week. I found it a very peculiar gift, he gave me a comb made out of sandalwood. What does this …

Why won't my Chinese boyfriend introduce me to his family? 
I dated my Chinese/Vietnamese boyfriend for over 2 years and have yet to meet his family. We met when I lived in Boston for school and he is from there. …

Is this Chinese Girl just being nice or something more? 
I go to a private school with a lot of boarding kids from China. There was this Chinese girl that I sort of liked but didn't talk much to her. She left …

Chinese Parents' Disapprove of my Ethnicity 
This is a very unorthodox and long story. I met a Chinese girl by coincidence using a Chinese app for making new friends. This was hard, as I don't speak …

Am I moving too fast for a traditional Chinese woman? 
I have been seeing this Chinese woman for a couple of months. We only went out on three dates but each lasted eight hours or more. But when I tried to …

No Public Display of Affection in China? 
I have a wonderful, beautiful, kind, sweet and sexy Chinese fiancée. She lives in mainland China. We are deeply in love and I have been to China twice …

A Chinese guy told me that I'm special, but I already have a baby... 
A Chinese guy told me that I’m special for him, but he never introduces me to his friends and parents. He is 33 and I am 23. Also, I already have a baby …

Perfectly Puzzled by this Young Chinese Girl 
I met a young Chinese girl online doing business in Mainland China. We texted and we enjoyed chatting with each other very much. After some 6 months, I …

Does Everyone Yell in China? 
My Chinese wife and her parents (and extended family) seem to yell about everything. She tells me it is because they all originally came from large families …

Should I tell my Chinese friend I like her? 
I have a Chinese friend I met at college. We have been out twice so far. She told me I'm her first real friend since she's been in the States. One night …

Met a Wonderful Chinese Girl 
I recently met a young woman from China and we have spent a little time eating out and going to the park. I just realized I am developing feelings for …

What do Chinese Women think of Long Hair? 
Do Chinese woman get the wrong impression from men with long hair? Victoria's Answer: Nihao Randy, If that man is related with art, for …

First Date with a Chinese Girl 
Are there any etiquitte requirements when meeting a mature Chinese lady for the first time? Ian Victoria's Answer: Nihao Lan, Thanks …

Would my Chinese Boyfriend ever get back with me? 
We broke up about a year ago, I made him lose face. We have not connected by phone, text or email for almost a year now, but I still see him at work. …

Dating Chinese Girls 
My name is Matt and I really want to find a nice Chinese girlfriend. I've been living in Beijing for more than 6 months and during this time I've gone …

What's going on in this Chinese Girl's head and heart? 
I've been in a relationship with a Chinese girl for eight months now. I'm twenty six and she's three years younger than me. I basically want to know …

Chinese Waitress Soap Opera Part Four 
Either this Chinese waitress is a pro player (she’s using me), or I cannot read between the lines...Since the last question of “My Chinese Waitress Soap …

Chinese Love and Good Luck Charms 
I was told by a Chinese cousin that it was good luck when an older Chinese person (90+ years old) gave a young person a lucky piece of jewelry. Is this …

Is this Chinese Girl a Possible Girlfriend? 
I'm confused about this Chinese girl I met for almost two months now. I see her once a week when I go to her for treatment and we've become friends, and …

My boyfriend has a Chinese mom. How can I get on her good side? 
My boyfriend has a Chinese mom and a white dad. The dad seems to like me, but his mom never even acknowledges me. Her English is not that great, but obviously …

Is he really serious about me? 
I have a Chinese boyfriend, we met about one year ago. He once told me he loves me, but I'm not sure. The problem is we can meet each day on the phone, …

Chinese Guy's Family do not Approve of Foreign Girlfriend 
I am currently dating a Chinese (Singaporean) guy for several months already and I have met his family. His parents, especially his mom, do not approve …

Will Understanding Chinese Culture Endear Me to this Waitress? 
I am interested in a Chinese waitress at a restaurant I have been going to weekly for about a year and a half. Over the past few months I have been gradually …

Confused about Chinese Girl's Actions 
I wrote to you several months ago about a very nice Chinese girl that I had become acquainted with at a Chinese restaurant. Since then we have become friends …

Who is in This Chinese Woman's Heart? 
Six months ago I started to develop feelings for a Chinese woman . I'm a foreigner living and working here in China for almost a year now. She is a co-worker, …

A very complicated relationship with a Chinese girl 
I met a very beautiful Chinese girl in my university . We became friends and used to talk for hours on qq and used to meet 3 or 4 times a week. I liked …

A confusing internet relationship with a Chinese girl 
Hello, First of all many thanks that you offer this service for FREE. This is really great!!! Now about my concern, I met a very nice Chinese girl …

Chinese girl wants to share room with me 
One Chinese girl on the Internet, who I consider a special friend, is coming to Spain for a one month summer course. She wants to take advantage of the …

Correct greetings for a father in law 
I have met a lovely lady and we are to be married soon. We only spent a week physically together but have corresponded everyday since. I am due to fly …

Her Chinese parents are not so approving 
Hello Victoria, This is my second question to you in only a week. My previous question I feel you answered very accurately and I would like more insight …

What changed my Chinese boyfriend’s mind? 
Hi Victoria, it’s me again, Kiel; from “why does my Chinese boyfriend’s mom oppose our love.” I told everything to him on what I have stated in my last …

Beards and long finger nails in Chinese culture 
Hi! Love the site. I have spent the last two hours looking at cultural questions and answers! I am pretty much fluent in Chinese but that does not mean …

Confused about her feelings and long term friendship 
I'm a foreigner who has been in China for over ten months. My Chinese isn't not exactly conversational, but I manage to express myself. I have liked a …

What flowers should I give to a Chinese girl? 
What is a good flower arrangement to give to a Chinese friend that is a girl? Victoria's Answer: Hi there, To send flowers to a …

Need help for gifts to a Chinese bride 
My Brother married a Chinese girl last year. Only the paper work was done then. Now he is going back and they are having the ceremony and then he will …

Why did this Chinese woman stop writing? 
I have been writing a Chinese lady for 3 years, and all of a sudden she just stopped writing and hasn't said goodbye. I talk to her on the phone once a …

Why does my Chinese boyfriend’s Mom oppose our love part 2? 
Hi Victoria, It’s been a while and I just read your answer and thank you for your kind response. This is an additional information about “Why does …

When will a Chinese girl start being intimate with her boyfriend? 
This girl told me that she likes me and took me on a date in China. But she won't even go so far as to give me a hug. This is giving me mixed messages …

Why does she apologize after she has rejected me?  
I have known this Chinese girl for about 8 months as we used to work together. But we got really close the past 4 months. We used to have a good time …

A generous gift 
I know a young Chinese woman who was very kind to an older man. She thought he was homeless and being a waitress, she paid for his dinner many times from …

Sex before marriage 
How does a Chinese girl look at sex before marriage?? My last Chinese girlfriend refused to have sex. She said that it was a cultural belief or something. …

Is she my friend or wants to be more?  
I recently moved to China in a small city called Fushun and I have been working with this Chinese girl that is my assistant. We seem to get along pretty …

How to host the future Chinese daughter in-law and her mother 
We're hosting our son's fiancee & her mother in our home. It's their first visit to the U.S. What type of gifts would be appropriate to give them? …

Should I trust this Chinese woman? 
I am inquiring to ask you a personal question. I joined a mail order website-chnlove.com. I received a most profound letter from a woman aged 31, Jessica. …

Is this an inappropriate gift? 
My name is Nurfatinah, as you saw my name, I am a muslim, but I have never lacked Chinese friends and they're all precious to me. I went to Dubai early …

How should I proceed to win her heart? 
I have a question, a few months ago I told my friend that I liked her, she had no idea how I felt. She at that time said she wanted to be friends and …

Dating a separated woman in China 
Is it legal or wise to date a woman who has been separated 3 years? I am an American. What kinds of problems might I have? Victoria's Answer:

Will I continue to trust this Chinese guy? 
I met a Chinese guy. I'm also Asian. We're both in college now and we have known each other for a year. So let me tell you first how we met: I sometimes …

My husband's Chinese student gave me earrings...now what? 
My husband teaches at the university. He has been mentoring a young lady who is a Chinese exchange student. She returned from a trip with a gift for me. …

My Chinese Waitress Soap Opera - Part Two 
Since I sent you the “My Chinese Waitress Soap Opera” question, things have taken a different turn. I stopped at the Buffet Restaurant and Lin was not …

Chinese American man lost interest in me? 
I've been seeing a Chinese American man for about 4 months. We knew each other professionally for over a year before we started dating. He was married …

My Chinese Waitress Soap Opera 
In the USA, a Chinese waitress (named Lin) has my phone # & email. She sent me two emails. She reads my email replies, but now she told me that her boyfriend …

Luxury Brands in China 
How are luxury brands perceived to young people in China? Is there pressure on them to purchase luxury items? What are the most popular luxury items in …

Cultural Difference Between Chinese Malaysians and People from China 
I am Chaz from Sri Lanka, and I was wondering whether there is a significant cultural difference between Chinese people in Malaysia and Chinese people …

Taking the Right Gift for a Chinese Lady 
I'm meeting a Chinese lady in a few days in China. She has told me that Chinese tradition is to take her a small gift such as a necklace, a bracelet, earrings …

How to get my Chinese girlfriend back 
I’m David and I'm from France. I am with a Chinese girl for one year now but she is thinking about breaking up with me. The reason is that I had friends …

What does it mean when a Chinese girl sits too close? 
I am just curious about Chinese culture. I joined a masters course and I have a group project with some guys and one Chinese girl in it. We both are married …

Wondering how this Chinese girl really feels 
I have been talking to a Chinese girl for several months now. She is in Changchun and I live in America. We talk for 4 or 5 hours everyday on QQ. We have …

She has a "little gift for me from China." 
I am a college student who was recently assigned a group project where one of the members was a Chinese girl. Throughout the process I felt like I had …

Does she like me? 
There is this girl that works at a small Chinese restaurant that I go to about once a week. She always says “hi” to me, asks me how my day was and asks …

Double Happiness 
I would like to send out wedding announcements with the Double Happiness symbol and a brief meaning. What is the best way to describe the meaning of double …

Chinese fiancee won't let me buy gifts 
My Chinese fiancee won't agree to me buying birthday or Christmas gifts for my oldest daughter! I think it's crazy. She is still my child. My youngest …

Why won't my Chinese Boyfriend fight for us? 
I met my Chinese boyfriend at work about a year ago. After he had an accident I took care of him and then we started having feelings for each other. …

Does this Chinese girl still like me? 
I am an American citizen of Indian origin who fell in love with a Chinese girl in 2007. We really loved each other for a couple of years. Even though …

How do I get my Chinese girlfriend back? 
How do I get my Chinese girlfriend back after absolutely ruining our relationship by being too emotionally insecure? She has a drug problem which makes …

What does being a girlfriend mean to a Chinese girl? 
What does being your girlfriend mean to a Chinese woman? Victoria's Answer: Nihao Mark, To a Chinese woman, being your girlfriend means …

K-1 Visa and the Chinese Communist Party 
My fiancée and I are filing for the K-1 visa and she will be coming to Hawaii to live with me. She joined the CCP (Chinese Communist Party) in 2002. I …

What do I have to think about his behavior? 
I met this Chinese guy a few months ago in a place where we usually both go. I noticed him very quickly but did not paid a lot of attention to him as I …

Why do Chinese women see me as the Donald? 
Greetings Victoria, my question to you is why do Chinese women use dating sites just to attract cupids seeking a real commitment to marriage? I happen …

Want to ask Chinese woman for date 
There is a real nice Chinese woman working in a restaurant in town where I live. I would really like to get to know her. I am not sure if she is married …

What shall I do to win this Chinese girl? 
Last time you advised me to work hard for my love; I took your advice and I'm determined not to give up on her! Since that time I try to keep in contact …

Chinese Fiancee Loses Interest 
Hello, I live with my Chinese girlfriend and we are to be married soon. All of a sudden, she seems to have no interest in me anymore. She spends all her …

Older American Man, Young Chinese Woman 
I'm 48 years old. I'm an American. I have never been one who looked for young women. I'm living in China. I'm in a work environment with several mid-20 …

Chinese Terms of Endearment 
My Chinese girlfriend lived in the US for one year now. I commonly call her by various terms of endearment - baby, dear, even “Kitty Cat” if being playful. …

Giving a Chinese female jewellery 
Is there anything i should know before giving a Chinese female a gift of jewellery? Victoria's Answer: Hi, First, you should understand …

What should I do to win this Chinese girl? 
I am an African boy(18) living in China. I have been friends with this Chinese girl here. I began to like her and after some time I told her about how …

Want to feel like a part of his Chinese family 
Will my Chinese born boyfriend, who lives in Australia (for the past 15 years of his life), always choose his family over his girlfriend? I've met his …

Chinese waitress too friendly? 
This Chinese waitress gives me the V (peace) sign whenever I visit the restaurant. She tells me that when I'm there she smiles inside all day. Now she …

Chinese boyfriend's family headache and heartache 
I am a Chinese born Australian. I met a Chinese guy who is younger than me by 13 years. I am 35 and he is 23. We started to date and it goes very well. …

Gift Ideas for a Chinese Friend 
I have a female friend that goes back home to China every year for two months. Can you suggest a gift that she would enjoy and would give her the sense …

How do I know if she's interested? 
I have recently become friends with a Chinese girl and I am very interested in her. We text on the phone every night and she has asked me to help her learn …

Finding out if she likes me 
I was in China for a while and met a sweet Chinese girl. After I went back to my country, we have continued to comunicate through email. Since we both …

He Wants to Divorce his Chinese Wife 
We got married in China on January 7, 2006. I am from the US and she is Chinese. I moved to live in China for the last year and three months. We had to …

Dating a chinese girl 
I am dating a Chinese girl in Malaysia. The problem is, she always expects me to take her to expensive places for dining. Lately she suggests that I pay …

Does he like me? 
I'm English and live in China. A local Chinese guy in my office started being very friendly. He alternates from being shy to flirty. After a few months …

Stuck on my Chinese ex-boyfriend 
It's about my ex-chinese-boyfriend...we had a complicated relationship this past year. Once he broke up and some months after came together again. Because …

One Family, One Child 
I want to ask you, what is the reason for having much more males than females in China? Also, is the law of “one family, one child” still in existence? …

Does This Chinese Waitress Like Me? 
There is a Chinese waitress I like at a Chinese restaurant and I am curious if she likes me or is she just being nice? One day the hostess called me and …

How do you know if a Chinese girl likes you or just being friendly? 
I too have made many friends at Chinese restaurants, but a few in the past invited me to their apartment for dinner or lunch or just to talk. One told …

Chinese Waitress - Interested in Me or Just Being Friendly? 
There is this Chinese restaurant I go to almost every day. There are two waitresses there that I think may like me. I go there to get carry out but have …

China's Garden Art - do younger people care? 
It saddens me deeply that there seems to be a gradual decline in interest amongst younger Chinese people today and the traditional culture aspects, such …

Questions about Populations in China 
When was the law of having only one child in a family passed? Is it still in existence? Why are there more males than females in China? How big is …

First date with a Chinese woman 
I have a first date with a Chinese woman coming up. I am a 60 year old professional man. She has been in the US for 7 years. Can you give me any "do's …

Chinese business etiquette and introducing a 'boyfriend' 
I am a Asian girl with her own business and have been invited to Beijing for meetings in a few weeks. I would like to invite a friend/boyfriend (we are …

Chinese New Year Traditions 
Chinese New Year Traditions - “Do girls have to wear red underwear too?” - Question is from Eric in New York City, New York, United States of America …

Life in China - interested in living in China 
I am an Israeli female, and interested in life in China. Can students who finish university and want to proceed and develop themselves find interesting …

Life in China - Chinese Universities 
About the everyday life in China...Does everybody get health treatment? Even the poor? Do ill people get any help from the government? And what about …

Met a sweet Chinese American girl last week and now she does not answer her phone 
I decided to get a massage Friday. She gave me a big hug when we met. Her name is Susan. During the massage, I told her I was new to the area after …

How do I proceed with this Chinese woman? 
I have known this Chinese woman for about a year. She was introduced to me by a friend who thought it was time (after several years in China) that I had …

Chinese blind date distanced herself from me after I blew up in a text 
I am a 40 year old English teacher. I started to see a divorced Chinese lady, a lovely gentle soul, with a job as an English teaching department Head in …

How does a 54 year old Chinese guy living in the US think about his love?  
I fell in love with a 54 year old Chinese guy, living in the US with 2 kids (who stay with him sometimes). I am a 40 year old Thai women, who lives in …

How would you ask a girl to be your girlfriend in Chinese? 
I dated this Chinese girl for a few months. I would like to ask her to be my girlfriend and I want to surprise her by asking her in Cantonese. Would you …

He Has a Gorgeous Girl 
I am an Asian person. There is this guy in our neighborhood who will soon come back from his journey. Anyways, I like him, but the problem is he has …

What Gifts are Appropriate? 
What is the appropriateness of “older” men giving gifts to young, Chinese, female students? The man is a westerner and married. The girl is …

My Chinese girlfriend says she can never be happy again 
My Chinese girlfriend moved to the U.S. with her parents about six years ago. I knew her then but didn't start to talk to her until last winter. Her and …

What Future Can I Expect from this Chinese Boyfriend? 
I met this Chinese guy in the bank that I work in. I am a Filipina and I reside in the Philippines. As what is pretty much the thing these days, he befriended …

How Can I Take This Out of the Office? 
I need some advice about a Chinese guy in my office. I'm British and have been working for a Chinese company in Beijing for the past six months. As …

Chinese Boyfriend Won't Let Me Meet His Family 
I dated this wonderful Singaporean Chinese man for almost a year but he still hasn't introduced me to his family yet. He did tell them about us though, …

Respecting Chinese Elders 
I have been to China three times and had meals with my Chinese wife's family. The one thing that impressed me is the manner in which adults respect their …

Does she still love me? 
This is the first time I'm asking a question to you. I was studying in school with this Chinese girl and we used to be be good friends. I did like her …

Chinese guys think I talk too much? 
I have several Chinese male friends and several online friendships on QQ. Usually everything starts great - lots of exchanging of likes and hobbies and …

Didn't meet her Chinese parents 
My last visit to China, around Qingming, was to meet her parents...but I didn't get a chance. Instead she broke up with me. Did I choose a bad time to …

Do I Need a China Visa and Does She Need an Indian Visa? 
I a 27-year-old Indian male who fell in love with a 24-year-old Chinese girl. She too is in love with me. We both work on a cruise line. We are planning …

Lucky Chinese Telephone Numbers 
My mother has a telephone number with five eights in a row. Would this be worth anything if it was put up for sale? - Question is from Steve in Scotland. …

Engagement Traditions for Shanghai 
I want to ask my Chinese girlfriend to marry me. She is Han and grew up in Shanghai. Her parents are still living there. What would be a good gift to …

What to send my friend in China? 
Ni hao, Victoria. Last summer I went to a summer camp in Shenzhen and I met a boy whom I became good friends with. Ever since, we've been exchanging emails. …

Chinese guy never turned up, so now what? 
So I invited this Chinese guy from the office to my birthday party - which was a large group of friends and some colleagues. The day after he mentioned …

My Girlfriend is irritated no matter what 
Please help me. No one is here to help me... so please!!  My relationship is going so bad now. She is feeling irritated whatever I do.  If I talk with …

Being more than just friends 
Since last May I got interested in Chinese culture, people and the country. I started learning Chinese by myself, but with no success. So I created 2 …

Does my Chinese boyfriend believe in me? 
I love my Chinese boyfriend more than anything, and I want him to believe and trust in me. However, every so often he will ask questions about my last …

How to please my Chinese boyfriend's parents? 
I have a Chinese boyfriend and we've been together now for more than three years. Like most Filipino-Chinese relationships, it is more like a forbidden …

Chinese mythology and language give me headaches 
I want to write a few fictional stories. Since I lack the Chinese language, I get a few headaches from writing those stories. For example, one is about …

Why did they toast the Chinese New Year with nuts and raw fish? 
I am an American who works for a Singaporean Investment company in New York. We had a party yesterday and I have to write an article re-capping the event. …

Giving my Chinese wife gifts 
I married a sweet and beautiful Chinese girl from Shanghai. We have been married about 9 months now, and are nearing the end of the immigration process. …

Suitable etiquette and gifts for Chinese New Year 
I will be spending spring festival with my Chinese friend and her family. What is suitable etiquette and presents for the day that I visit them in their …

Does this young, beautiful Chinese entrepreneur have another motive? 
I met a lady off a Chinese dating site that I registered to. I am tired of dating American women and I am looking for something different. I am a honest, …

What is a good Pinyin typing programme? 
I would like to know which pinyin programme would be good for practicing typing the tone markers in pinyin words. I want to be able to type pinyin words …

Romance at the Sushi Counter? 
Over the last two months I had some light conversation with a Chinese woman who has been in the U.S. for 6 months. She has been studying English for 4 …

Is it a romantic year for Fire rabbits? 
What is the significance of the upcoming year for a Fire Rabbit? Also particularly in romance, because both myself and the guy I am interested in are fire …

Snail Mail Gift Ideas for my Chinese Girlfriend 
I have the feeling we are coming closer together although we are still 8888 km apart. She's going to apply for a visa to visit me (for a few weeks) after …

Should I tell my Chinese girlfriend I love her whether she loves me or not? 
If ever things don't work out between my Chinese girlfriend and me, is it wise for me to tell her that I will love her regardless if she loves me back …

Does this Chinese lady love me or just like me? 
I have been seeing this Chinese lady for a couple of weeks. We talk everyday and spend time together. I hold her hand in public. I get a sweet goodbye …

What gifts should I give her parents? 
Her parents are from the Han Clan, and originate from the Guangzhou region. They lived in Hong Kong before moving to California. They're not very traditional …

Chinese wives and an acceptable way to relate to them 
A question about Chinese wives and Chinese family relationships: What is the acceptable relationship for a man to have with his brother's Chinese wife? …

How to find a Chinese wife the right way 
What is the right and best way for an Arab man to have a wife from China? Is it through the net or visiting China or to search from other ways? Thanks …

Chinese girl distances my love (and my power point) 
I met a Chinese girl once, and after a couple of emails, I asked her out. During our date, she asked my age. She seemed surprised because she is 4 years …

An acceptable Chinese name for Mr. Slap 
I need to select a Chinese name to use in business (print on my business card). I am an American and my last name is "Slap." Would it be acceptable to …

Is my Chinese fiancée holding back her cultural expectations out of love? 
My Chinese fiancée currently lives in China. I am in New Zealand. We both married previously. On my visits and during our courtship, I had the opportunity …

What type of flowers or plants to send my Chinese wife? 
What flower or plant is meaningful in the Chinese culture — especially in the south part near Guangzhou and Guangdong? You see, my wife and I were …

How do you pronounce the word "green" in Mandarin Chinese? 
I have difficulty saying luse (green) in Mandarin Chinese. It's the "lu" bit that's tripping me up. Please help! - Question from Nick in the United Kingdom. …

What's enscribed on my hand made Chinese dish? 
Hi, Victoria. Can you help me by reading some stuff on this old hand made Chinese dish? Thanks. Question from Kirshna Golemon of Cleveland, Texas, U.S.A. …

What is the Chinese name for Andrew? 
I am a college student, interning in China for the summer. After living here for a month, I decided to get a Chinese name. My name is Andrew, and a co-worker …

Am I her little brother or just a friend? 
Chinese is my major currently, but I'm still fairly new to it; I've never been to China (yet). Also, I started using QQ to chat with people just for the …

Credit cards and Chinese Women? 
Does the average Chinese woman have access to credit lending and credit cards like any American woman has? (Question is from Dave, in the United States.) …

Chinese girlfriend and her parents 
My Chinese girlfriend was born in America however her parents moved here from China about a year before her older brother (by 4 years) was born. I met …

Chinese Students and Newcomers in their Class 
Hi, Victoria... How do Chinese students act when a newcomer joins their class? Many many thanks in advance, Victoria... - Question is from Danish in …

Facial Hairs and Chinese Traditions 
My girlfriend had a single hair about an inch long on her chin. Definitely noticeable. I did not know how to point it out without embarrassing her or …

What is the legal procedure for marriage in China? 
I am an Indian living in Dubai and I have a Chinese girl in Xian whom I love very much and wish to marry... What is the legal procedure to follow for marriage …

Can I go out with the Chinese girl who works at the bar? 
Chinese culture is very beautiful! I met a woman at a bar. She works at the bar. And we talked a lot, I like her. I said “I like you.” And she said …

 


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