Answers to your questions about Chinese families, parenting and relationships...by a Chinese Mother!

A Chinese mother, Chinese family relationships and Chinese parenting can present some of the toughest challenges for those of us outside China. Whether you have a problem or just want to understand a Chinese mother's point of view...

Here's your chance. Christina is a Chinese mom who draws from her depth of experience in Chinese parenting to give you the explanations you need.

She has two beautiful children of her own, and speaking with Christina is like speaking with a Chinese expert in newborns and children.

Although Christina has a full command of the English language, she is from China and has always lived in China, even now. Her perspective and insights are purely Chinese.

No question is too basic, too sensitive or too taboo:

Perhaps you're curious about the “Chinese Tiger mother” mentality? Are Chinese mothers really like that? Or is it just the way the media portrays them?
Are you thinking of starting a family with a Chinese person and have questions about what you're getting into?
Maybe you're curious about Chinese family relationships and you're too embarrassed to ask someone you know?
Do you disagree with your Chinese spouse on how to raise your child? Christina can offer a second opinion...
Maybe you noticed something unusual about a Chinese family and you want to understand them?
Heaven forbid, you're trying to understand your own Chinese mother-in-law?
Or maybe you're simply curious about what it's like to be a mother in China?

NOTE: As sometimes happens to any mother, Christina needs to take a hiatus from answering questions, and focus on her family.

In the meantime, Victoria (who is also a mother) is happy to answer your questions here: Your Chinese culture questions answered...

You can also browse Christina's previous questions below, perhaps someone has already posed a question very similar to what you want to ask.

Christina's Answers

Click on the links below to read questions from other visitors like you.

Hiding my foreign boyfriend from my strict Chinese parents
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Chinese mother gives me the silent treatment
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Chinese parents don't like me because I'm white
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Afraid of her Chinese family's traditional beliefs
My partner and I love each other but she is afraid of being committed because of her Chinese family tradition? What should I do? I am a dyke, and a freshman …

Is my Chinese boyfriend serious?
Hi, I am an American woman dating a Chinese man. We both live in America, and so do his parents. We have been dating for 8 months and my boyfriend …

Do Chinese women like black guy?
Hello I am a black guy who is dating a Chinese woman. I'm financially stable, I don't fall into stereotypes and I'm well presented. The bad news …

My Chinese girlfriend is afraid to tell her Mom about me
I'm currently in a relationship with a beautiful Chinese girl. We both live in Denmark, but for some reason my girlfriend wants to hide our relationship …

What's good about being a Tiger Girl?
I’m a Tiger girl. My Chinese zodiac is a Tiger and I am dating a Dragon. My boyfriend's mother doesn't think it will work out because as a Tiger I am …

How to get along with my Chinese fiance's mother
My fiance is Chinese and I am a white American. We have lived together for a year now and planned to be married on my Father's birthday (who has passed …

Do Chinese mothers prefer sons over daughters?
My boyfriend is Chinese and a big believer of filial piety. He wants to live under the same roof as his widowed mom in the future. His mom prefers sons …

How to not insult a Chinese family
I’m dating a Chinese guy, and have been invited to a family gathering of his. I would like to know if there are any customs or things I should do or say, …

Meeting my Chinese Singaporean Boyfriend's Family
I'd like to ask for your tips about how to behave with my Chinese boyfriend’s family. We are in a long distance relationship. He is in Singapore and I …

Chinese in-laws too demanding
My question is regarding my in-laws. They are traditional Chinese parents that currently live in a village and are pretty poor. My husband is their only …

Chinese Family Culture
Our son was married and divorced and had two children from that marriage. We stay in contact with his ex-wife and have a normal relationship with our grandchildren. …

An Older Woman with Autism Dating a Younger Chinese Man
I am writing to you because there is a subject I am not certain I can bring up with the boy I am sort of seeing and also, I wonder what to do if I ever …

My Son's Chinese Wife Won't Speak to Me
My daughter-in-law is Chinese and she, my son, and their children live in Fuzhou. My son teaches in a Chinese university. We are all very friendly and …

Meeting my Chinese Boyfriend's parents
What do I expect from my Chinese boyfriend's parents when I get to meet them? Is it really hard just like what others say? What are your tips? I'm worried …

Chinese Girlfriend's Mom Hates My Guts
My girlfriend is Chinese. She was born in the United States, but her mother came from China. I am a United States citizen born and raised. We have been …

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