Is she my friend or wants to be more?

(USA)

Friendship or more?

I recently moved to China in a small city called Fushun and I have been working with this Chinese girl that is my assistant.

We seem to get along pretty good. We talk a lot and seem to have the same interest in life.

She calls me her best friend or a really good friend. We have gone out one on one to eat at the lunch hours and she seems really counterbalanced. I don't know if it is because we are in working houses or what.

The only thing that has me confused is that in America if a girl calls a boy a good friend or a best friend ,that’s a giveaway that she is not interested in a relationship.

Also the other day she invited me to eat at her aunts home. Her aunts told me that I can go eat at her home another time in the future or go to the park with them. The girl and her family looked pretty happy after the reunion.

So my question is: Do you think I have a chance in having a long term relationship with this girl as of what I have told you? If I do how can I put my cards on the table and let her know how I feel without scaring her?

By the way this girl is 23 and I am 28.

Victoria's Answer:

Hi there,

There is a chance for you to have a long term relationship with her.

If she was not interested in you, it wasn't possible for her to invite you to her aunt's house for lunch and ask you to go to the park with them sometime in the future.

As for how to let her know your feelings towards her, you can send her an SMS like this-"Sorry I sent 'I love you' to you by mistake, if you accept it, please keep it in your cellphone. If you refuse, please send it back to me", I think that would avoid the embarrassment of you telling her directly that you want to have a relationship with her.

Good luck!

Best regards,

Victoria