Serious about my Chinese Girlfriend

by Marko
(Costa Rica)

Hi. I guess that my own little Chinese girlfriend story is just starting, because I just met her 4 months ago. She lives in a restaurant that is close to where I live. She's 18 years old and I'm 23.

She barely speaks English, but in some way we understand each other.

We just started our relationship 3 weeks ago. I already understand that I have to be patient - I don't have a problem with that.

Actually, last weekend I wanted to talk with her seriously. I mean, to find out how serious is she about us.

So, using a translator on the Internet, I told her that I was serious and that I know that how her culture works and I'm fine with it. I don't really have a problem.

I didn't tell her, but I already know a lot of Chinese culture and understand about 50%.

Anyway, I also told her if she isn't serious I wouldn't play around with her. I'm very direct as you can see.

And she agreed. She told me that she didn't care what her father or anyone else says about us. She just cares about her mother. Actually, her mother is in China now but I'm pretty sure that she's coming over here someday.

Anyway up until now, everything is fine.

I know that communication could be hard. Now it's gonna get better I know.

I can say that I'm a faithful person, but have been pass almost a month and I really want to go with her to somewhere but I don't know how to ask her. Haha - I don't even understand much better how a Chinese girl thinks – haha!

Thanks!

Marko







Victoria's response:
Hi Marko,
Thanks for your interest in our website.
You stated that your Chinese girlfriend is just 18 years young, and you just set up your relationship for only 3 weeks.

Even you have known each other for 4 months, that is not enough for each other to know each other well. You both need to be patient.

As the Chinese saying goes, “Only when you fry the fish with a slow fire, can the fish be delicious.”

This applies to your relationship. If you want your relationship with her to be firm, solid and a life long relationship, you should be patient.

For now, you could give each other more chances to know each other.

For instance, it is not bad to go for a picnic with her on the weekend or have a cup of coffee at teatime, and so on.

But for other requests, it is not the right time now. I don't think she would agree with you to go further with your relationship at the moment.
 
Just keep being patient!
 
Best regards,

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