Will I continue to trust this Chinese guy?
I met a Chinese guy. I'm also Asian. We're both in college now and we have known each other for a year. So let me tell you first how we met:
I sometimes chat online and meet friends. So that night, I was in an Asian chat room purposely created for people who want to meet friends (and also for us to practice our English skills). Since I was the youngest in the room at that time, my chatmates (whom I considered my “brothers” and “sisters”) started teasing me and joking me for fun.
Then he entered the chat room. I greeted him with enthusiasm, and he's so quiet. So we just had fun. When the people in room got all close together, we started exchanging Facebook accounts, so we can communicate often. Some of them, which includes him, don't have Facebook (which I forgot) and he was offended (a bit).
So I felt really bad and said sorry to him.
The moment he said it's okay, followed by a ":D", we felt a connection.
He messaged me and we got to know each other for an hour or so. I was happy to meet him and we had lots of fun because we are bubbly.
Then, he said he likes me and asked me if it's okay if he calls me “my dear.”
So I agreed because I know it's just a name, an empty word, and I don't have romantic interest in him. I really would like us to be just friends. He asked me if it's okay to get my email so I gave him mine. He even called our conversation that night a “dream.”
And so we communicate through emails. He told me his personal life and his family. So did I.
He's so busy, so we send emails to each other daily, twice a day. And on Saturdays, we chat. We became really close and started exchanging pictures. He even liked me more because of my appearance.
He said he's even shy to show me his photo since I'm beautiful, according to him. Actually, I don't mind his looks. What matters to me is his personality and our friendship. So he showed me. He's not-that-good looking but he's extremely cute. And I like it.
On that week, he said to me: "Your eyes, nose, lips keeps flashing on my mind." And I feel sorry for him because he can't sleep, which kept him awake at late hours. So I have decided that he should email me only when he's free, not daily because I don't want to be a hindrance to his studies.
He got so depressed. The day after, I said I can't stand it. We missed each other so much so we continued.
Then after a long time he started calling me "my love". I allowed him to because it's only a name and I’m not sure if he really meant it.
One Saturday night, I shared to him that I'll travel to China with my family for vacation. He was so pleased but at the same sad because he's busy and we can't see each other since it's not vacation there. So I said not to worry, I will go there again after five years and I asked him to be my guide and companion. He said we was very pleased and it's an honor to be my guide.
Then as the time goes on, he's still funny but his tone becomes more serious about our future.
He said he'll wait for me for 5 years. He asked me if I'm in, and I said yes.
He said he wants a future with me. When I asked him what future is it, he only said “bright.”
He doesn't have any girlfriends because even though many girls like him, he doesn't want them. He said the moment we met he said to himself, “This is the girl that I'm waiting for.”
He promised me he'll stay single for 5 years and he promised too that I'm only his girl. He asked me to do the same and I wholeheartedly said “yes.”
So, do you think he's serious, or is it infatuation only? Because I already fell for him.
Should I trust him even though we are miles away?
As the Chinese saying goes “有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢.” (Yǒuyuán qiānlǐ lái xiāng huì, wúyuán duìmiàn bù xiāngféng.)
That means as decreed by providence you have met him; otherwise you would have failed even if you traveled a long way.
It doesn’t matter that you are a thousand miles away from each other...if you are destined to marry each other, fate will bring you to each other.
So my point of view is if you think you love him and want to go further with him, then continue to communicate with him.
At the same time, take care of yourself. Don't get hurt.
Time would prove if he is your Mr.Right.
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