Will my Chinese girlfriend come back to me?

by Sami

My Chinese girlfriend and I were in a relationship for 6 months and we were both happy together...I always took care of her, text messaged her, called her and often asked about her.

One day, I sent her a text message and invited her for dinner. I said, "I will come to get you to go out for dinner.”

She replied, "Such behavior can be offensive to me. You should inform me in advance. I don't want to go out with you."

Right away, I called her and told her "I just wanted to make a good surprise and I thought you'd like it and I'm sorry if I offended you.”

Two days later I called her to ask how she is doing and she said, “I don't want to continue with you anymore cause I don't have feelings for you.”

Last week, I asked her if she wants to be my girlfriend again and she said just as friends. For her birthday, we went to the movies and she was happy and I was too.

My question is: What should I do to get her back? Should I give her time to think about our relationship? Do you think she will come back to me one day? I always tell her: "I love you more than anyone else in the world and you are the only one I want to be with."

Thanks again in advance for your help. Thank you very much for your last answer...It was very helpful.


Sami


Victoria's Answer:

Hello Sami,

I am glad that you liked my previous answer and I hope everything between you and your girlfriend goes smoothly.

Usually when a boyfriend sends a text message like yours to his girlfriend — she would be very happy and accept the invitation.

I wonder if she met some difficulties during those days? Or maybe she was in a blue mood?

According to your description, you were happy with each other. So, your girlfriend's response is not normal.

If you can find out what caused her abnormal reaction, that would be helpful to the relationship between you two.

When a man and a woman fall in love with each other, they are happy for the first few months. What they can see are the advantages and positive aspects of each other.

As time goes by, they find out the disadvantages and negative aspects of each other. Then they begin to think about their relationship and see if they should go further or just stop.

My point of view is talk to your girlfriend and find out the reason why she suddenly told you she doesn't have feelings for you. When you find out the reason, then we can find out how to solve the problem.

I hope you ultimately get your girlfriend back. I can see how you love her. I wish you good luck.

Any further questions, just feel free to contact me.

Best regards,






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